Last week, during a small social
gathering, conversation turned to the anticipated reopening of hairdressers.
One of our company, a woman I had never met before, was especially keen to book
her appointment. She apologised for the state of her hair, although it looked
fine to me. “Ah,” she said, “but it doesn’t usually look like this.” I replied, “And mine doesn’t usually look like this,” to which she said, “Really? It looks fine to me!” and we agreed that we had become so used to
our respective cultivated images that we are blind to what others see. Two days
later, and despite the fact that I had been toying with the notion of reverting
to the untamed locks and full beard I sported in 1972, I bottled it and went
for a haircut. I came out looking like the person I want others to see – a
conventional, liberal, white, male, educated, middle-class boomer.
My 1970s look is over, for sure, but
the decade lives on. In ‘74 I parted company (amicably) with my then close circle of
friends. They all drifted from London to Sydney, while I opted for Manchester
(it’s a long story). We kept in touch: at first there were airmail letters
and a few rationed phone calls; later, there were occasional visits; then
Facebook made frequent contact possible. Lockdown, however, has been an
unexpected catalyst in strengthening the group bond. Zoom meetings have become
a weekly fixture and occasion to marvel at the endurance of friendships formed
so long ago. Inevitably, much of our time is spent reminiscing which, though
heart-warming, can be problematic. One person’s memory is not like
another’s so, when asked to recollect a significant moment during a concert, for
example, one can’t even be sure of one’s presence at the time. Such moments can be embarrassing or even
controversial.
The current generation of youngsters,
busily bonding away, will have no such problem fifty years hence. All their
social interactions will be stored in the cloud in the form of photos, videos,
blogs and Facebook posts – all date-stamped and geo-tagged for absolute
accuracy of recall. There will be no arguments about who was where, when and
why. All they will have to do is press ‘re-run’, relax and soak up
the incontrovertible evidence of their meticulously documented youthful
indiscretions. Meanwhile, we of a previous era hold up dog-eared, faded photos
– often without so much as a date scrawled on the back – to the webcam for
scrutiny.
One such is a photo of me in my
hirsute glory, sporting the authentically un-groomed style that marked us out
as anti-establishment and served as a visual emblem of our liberal politics.
What a dream that was. Fifty years on and it seems no longer attainable. We
have failed to persuade the majority that their interests are not best served
by minorities with a selfish agenda and we are lumbered with political leaders
who reject socialism with a vengeance. Of late, I have engaged in a last-ditch
attempt at political discourse with conservatives, giving it my best shot with
rational, reasoned arguments aimed at changing their minds.
But I’ve had a major setback to my
hopes this week: a book by behavioural psychologist Antony Haidt undermines my
approach. Haidt demonstrates why it is impossible to convert a conservative to
a liberal by reasoned argument. Political views are founded in moral beliefs –
what is considered fair or harmful. But fair or harmful to whom? The rational moralist might incline towards
inclusive socialism. But Haidt claims that morality is predominantly intuitive
and socially ingrained. Such morality binds and
blinds its adherents, so that they vote according to group loyalty. If I want
to make headway against Trump and Johnson supporters, I must change my tactics.
Perhaps a visit to the barbers to get a more fanciful hairstyle might be a good
start.
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