Friday, 28 August 2026

Friends and Neighbours

          It’s official: the second most friendly place to live in England* is the district of South Hams in South Devon. The criteria employed in determining the rankings may certainly be questioned, but there’s no denying that the area is visually attractive, with its five estuary valleys and a coastline of cliffs, bays and beaches. I spent some time there last week and didn’t see one ugly feature.

          I was there because my Other Half had undertaken a walk along the section of the South West Coast Path that fringes South Hams, a three-day route that has four ferry crossings and one carefully timed pedestrian fording. My part was to turn up in the campervan at the end of each day to provide dinner and accommodation, meaning my days were free for tootling around the picturesque fishing ports and the hinterland of hamlets formed through centuries of small-scale agriculture.

          As a tourist passing through, the opportunities to interact with locals are limited, so any attempt on my part to gauge the validity of the “friendly” accolade is really just guesswork, though that doesn’t stop me trying.

          For instance, there may be physical features inherent to the landscape that promote a sense of community – such as the predominance of single-track roads lined with tall, impenetrable hedges and provided with occasional passing places. Progress along these roads is necessarily slow and, when you do meet an oncoming vehicle, there is an interaction with the other driver – an exchange of glances, a flashing of lights and a raising of hands in recognition that one or other of you has made an accommodation for the passing.

          Then again, how can you identify a ‘local’? The whole area is so popular with holidaymakers, retirees and second-home owners that the criteria must have become compromised over the years.

          If it’s any help, there is a distinctly different feel to the town of Salcombe from that of Kingsbridge, which is further up the same estuary. The once modest fishing port of Salcombe is now one of Britain’s most expensive ‘property hotspots’. My afternoon there revealed a town centre devoted entirely to up-market holidaymaking, with an emphasis on yachting and water sports. It must be a dreary place in the winter.

          Kingsbridge, by contrast, has a healthy high street with a mix of everyday shops, a fish-smokery, a smattering of chic boutiques and a few decent charity shops. My time there was more profitably spent, not least in exploring the historic church and civic buildings at the top of the town.

          Perhaps friendliness is too difficult to pin down as a measurable asset when it comes to choosing a place to live. There is a widespread belief that the people of England’s northern towns are friendlier than those in the south – well, it’s widespread amongst northerners, at least – and when I moved from London to Manchester (long ago), I experienced the phenomenon, for sure. But does that feeling of community derive from the “we’re all in the same boat” phenomenon? In this case, northerners sticking together in the face of the snooty derision of uninformed but wealthier southerners?

          So, to the number one spot, the friendliest place to live. It turns out to be the Scilly Isles. I haven’t been there – for the following reasons: it’s not easy to access; housing and accommodation are limited; the cost of living is higher than on the mainland and, according to northern folklore, the further south you go, the less friendly are the locals – although now that I’ve moved south myself, it’s probably time to reassess my prejudice in that respect.

          Could it be that the Scillies top the poll because they are isolated and relatively untroubled by the turmoils of the wider world? If so, the same applies to South Hams, which is an oasis of calm, far from big-city strife and chaos and with a strong sense of community that is readily fostered by its seclusion. Friendly but somewhat disconnected?

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